Paula and Robert

 Paula and Robert


Our Story of this couple is coming soon.

In the mean time, here is some information on wedding vows.

 The exchange of wedding vows is an integral part of a wedding ceremony. It is a very romantic moment and often the perfect place to express your feelings towards your partner; though most religious denominations use a customary vow; truth is, you can actually insist on adding your own personal written vows either before or after the customary vow.
Whether you're writing your own wedding vows or planning to have the traditional vows at your wedding ceremony, exchanging your wedding vows can be one of the most memorable moments of your wedding day; it is where you are pledging to remain committed to your partner and be true to him/her forever.
Wedding vow is a sacred promise between bride and groom in front of God and witnesses to love each other and remain committed to one another through thick and thin.
Every relationship needs nurturing and one should not seek alternatives if the relationship is perceived as not going well; remember no one is perfect. One needs to work on their differences and not focus on what has gone wrong, but on how it will be solved. Even if one do find an alternative, there is no guarantee the second wedding will work; it is therefore better to abide by the solemn promise or wedding vows exchanged, by working towards reconciling all differences and learn most importantly to compromise.

Exchange of Wedding vows are usually observed by families and friends who are witnesses at the ceremony where the couple promises to love each other for all eternity and symbolize this love by exchanging rings. In recent times, we have seen a rather downward spiral of these vows because couples are no longer committed to the ‘forever’ part due to conflicts and irreconcilable differences. This trend is disheartening and whether the couple agrees or not, it impacts negatively on them and their children, if any. Divorce/Separation is never easy to bear or cope with.
Our advice for couples is to learn to be mentally strong, knowing that all marriages have their ups and downs.
Couples should reduce or eliminate the interference of third party in their homes. We are all created uniquely and our approach to challenges and subsequent solution proffered is pertinent to each person; your husband can not be like your friend’s husband or your father and your wife can not be a perfect homemaker. Every person has their positive and negative part and your job as the other ‘half’ / ‘helpmeet’ is to help minimize the negative and improve more on the positive sides. Don’t always focus on your partner’s bad deeds. Love does not keep tabs on wrongdoings.
Remember, breaking the wedding vows makes you more miserable, so strive to remain committed.
On another note, we cannot safely say that recanting on marital vows is right or wrong, good or bad.
It is a wonderful thing to be with one person for as long as the relationship is of mutual benefit to help each other grow, to explore life and to engage your minds in new areas; but to remain together because of some recited obligation, long after you do not fit into each other’s lives or long after you have stopped growing and have no common purpose. This can be likened to the signing of contract with an employer stating, “I will work here, and in this job until death do us part. And no matter how my interests or life goals change, no matter how dissatisfied I am with this job, no matter how many other areas of my life I could fulfill if I were to have a different job, I will still stay with you as long as I live.”

Does this make any sense at all? Of course not! Yet that is what couples do when they promise to remain together for the remainder of their lives; even after they have stopped loving each other or no longer have anything in common.
There is no moral justification to subject oneself to a lifetime/lifelong of unhappiness. 

Traditional wedding vows are gradually being replaced by personalized wedding vows. It is true that couples especially in the western world are replacing the traditional wedding vows – “till death do us apart” with “till we love and live together, we will love each other” or“As long as our love last”. These personalized vows means couple are ready to go out of the relationship easily, if it is not working.
Couples are getting more practical and losing the sentiments or societal norms usually associated with marital vows or making a solemn vow to an individual to a lifetime of genuine commitment despite challenges encountered. They are not keen on making efforts to repair a relationship they believe doomed.  

Unconditional wedding vows are changing to Conditional wedding vows and with most cases of conditional vows; there are rare chances of continuity with a higher chance of breaking up.


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